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How to help someone you think is being abused:

Approach the situation cautiously. Remember the victim is an expert on her own life and safety.

Listen without judging her or giving advice. Let her tell you what she needs. Well-meaning advice (e.g.) she should leave him / go back to him / try harder) may be dangerous for her or her children.

Here are a few examples of how to take action:

Offer resources – e.g. pass on the number for Cantara Safe House’s crisis line (403) 793-2232 open 24-hours a day, 7 days per week or 911 if there is an emergency.

Offer emotional support – e.g. share a meal or offer to go with her to appointments.

Offer practical support – e.g. let her leave her important papers, or a suitcase of clothes at your home or offer to baby-sit.

Above all do not confront the abuser on her behalf because this could have terrible consequences for her but do let her know that you believe her and that there are others who do as well.

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