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Abusers are Cho…

Abusers are Choosers

We all make deliberate choices in our lives. For example WE choose who our friends are and how we treat the people we interact with daily.  This is no different for abusers; they too make a deliberate choice to abuse. 

It’s pretty easy to blame abuse on being drunk, high, having a bad day, the loss of a job, or being out of control. The list of excuses for why someone abuses can go on and on and vary from person to person. In fact no reason and no excuse anyone comes up with to abuse justifies the point the WE ALL CHOOSE OUR ACTIONS.

An abuser CHOOSES to say and do demeaning things. They choose to hit, punch, choke, threaten, stalk, play mind games, or get the household up at 2am to yell and threaten them for hours because a can rolled out of the garbage. The bottom line behind what is being done is THEY, the abuser, chooses to make a deliberate choice to harm in whatever way they decide: sexual, financial, spiritual, emotional, verbal, and / or physical.

Not only does and abuser choose their actions they also choose who they abuse. The abuser doesn’t abuse EVERYONE in their live. For example they don’t go to work and humiliate their boss every day. They are making a deliberate choice of who they will abuse. They are very much in control of their actions. No one makes them do anything. At the end of the day we are all accountable and responsible for our own actions and choices and so are abusers.

Donna Lee Urlacher

Outreach Worker

Cantara Safe House

(403) 793-2232 for help 24 hours a day

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